Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Guest List Tips for Your Wedding

Assembling the guest list for you wedding can be a very stressful activity. You have to combine not just the list of people you know, but also your parents, your fiancé and his parents. Whoever is hosting the wedding generally will have the final say as they are the ones providing the finances.

If you are a traditional bride, you’ll want to invite everyone you know and have ever known. It’s important, although not romantic, to recognize there is a cost attached to each guest. For an affordable wedding you’re looking at $25-50 per person.

Start by handwriting your list, but put it in a spreadsheet as soon as possible. An electronic list will save you hours of time and provide a huge amount of flexibility. Once it is electronic you can not only email it around to the deciding parties that may not all be local to you, but you can sort it in so many useful ways. You can use it to figure out assigned seating and keep track of details like what gift you received so you can send a meaningful and specific thank you note. You can even use it to mailmerge creative labels and save hours of handwriting on envelopes.

As you are preparing your list, keep in mind that there is usually 10-20% attrition rate of guests invited to actual attending. One of the most common mistakes is inviting too many guests. It can be an emotional and difficult task to pare down the list.

• Choose your battles. Be firm but give in if it’s a small issue and emotions are running high. It’s better to be on good terms with parents.

• Be fair. Try to give both sides of the family equal representation. Unless of course you are having more than one reception because families are so far apart, then you’ll have higher concentrations in each city.

Don’t include “and guest”. If a guest is single with no significant other, tell them that space is tight and not to bring a guest.

• If you don’t hang out with your co-workers outside of the office, don’t include them. It’s nice to invite your boss and assistant if you can though.

• If you’re not inviting children, be consistent. Have a guideline like no one under 18 or only nieces and nephews or something along those lines to be fair.

• Avoid chain-gangs. If inviting one person compels you to add 6 others by association, you should not invite them. i.e. a second cousin, then have to invite all 2nd cousins.

• Stagger the invitations. As a last resort you can, if you send out your invitations early enough, send out to a second list once you receive some regrets. Be careful not to let them suspect they are on the B list though.

If you have a smaller guest list you may be able to get into a smaller, less expensive venue and splurge a little on the details. It’s a difficult task, but try to keep perspective on what your wedding is actually for and it will help you as you decide who you want to share that incredibly significant commitment you make to each other.

Article by Magna Goerke "The DIY Wedding Expert"


How to Choose your Wedding Party

Once you’re engaged, it’s exciting to share the news with everyone you know. In the glow of romance you can easily make rash decisions. A common mistake is to choose your wedding party too early. It’s hard to take back a request to be a bridesmaid after you realize you’ve just gushed the news and blurted to too many friends, ‘you just have to be in my wedding party.’

Select your bridal party only after you have set a wedding date, reserved a reception site and firmed up your guest list. It’s completely up to you how many attendants you have, but if you have a fairly small wedding, it could look a little incongruous to have a bridal party of 12 and a guest list of 80. A good gauge to go by is one usher per 50 guests.

Just because you were asked to be a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding doesn’t mean she has to be in yours. There are so many factors that should be considered. This is a big responsibility, so consider their circumstances. It can be a $250-$500 commitment to be in a wedding party. Be sure they are aware of your expectations, before they say yes. Let them know if you expect them to buy their own clothing, give a speech, or throw a party. It can be a strain on the relationship if you have an expectation that they are either unaware of or unwilling to fulfill. If you still want to ask someone you know can’t afford it, offer to help them with the costs.

If you have a lot of close friends and family you think should be in your wedding party but don’t want that large of a group, give them other responsibilities. If you have a very close friend from out of town that wouldn’t be able to fulfill a lot of expected duties ahead of time, ask them to do a reading, or make a rehearsal dinner toast so they still feel included.

These days tradition has become a lot more flexible. It really doesn’t matter if you have an uneven tally of bridesmaids and groomsmen. An usher can escort a bridesmaid on either arm and be entirely acceptable. A bride’s best friend may be a man or a groom’s best friend a woman. The bottom line is to choose the people that are closest to you and you know are going to be happy to help.

Maid in bridesmaid, should be less about marital status and more about serviceability. Just keep perspective. Although your wedding is the most important thing in your life right now, it is not necessarily the most important thing to them. Don’t become ‘Bridezilla’ and remind yourself “they’re my bridesmaids, not my servants.”

Your wedding party are there to love and support you and make sure you stay relaxed and have fun. If you take your time choosing, and communicate clearly with them, you are sure to create wonderful memories together that you can reminisce over for many years to come.

Article by Magna Goerke "The DIY Wedding Expert"




Negotiating Mutually Beneficial Agreement for Your Wedding

Weddings are highly emotional events. This is because two people have committed the rest of their lives together and have invited everyone they love to celebrate with them. All this emotion can lead to some pretty heated battles.

What if your parents want too much say in financial matters or they don’t like your choice of companion? Even if you and your fiancĂ©, both have the same vision for your wedding, you still have to agree on the combined guest list, program, type of ceremony and many other areas including where to go on your honeymoon. Your wedding party will want some participation in choosing their attire, especially if they are paying for it. You may think vendors will just concede to anything you ask because you’re paying them, but they too will not only have opinions, but also are great resources of experience and expertise. So how do you not only avoid the heated battle that can ruin the harmony of your day, but both get what you want?

According to negotiation experts Roger Fisher and William Ury, in “Getting to Yes”, the first step is to separate the people from the problem. Participants should see each other as working together to attack the problem, not each other. Second is to find out what the underlying interests are. If you recognize that you both want the wedding to be successful and happy, you have something to work together on. Next, think about a variety of options for mutual gain. Finally, agree on an objective criterion so that neither party feels they need give in to the other.

Ego and pride can be huge obstacles when trying to come up with solutions under pressure. Give the other party the opportunity to save face. This is especially important with parents. Parents can be extremely emotional when it comes to their children and are not always the mature ones. The term ‘mama bear’ is descriptive of just how extreme those emotions can get. The reason they act this way is because they love you so much. Try to keep perspective and acknowledge that support as well as their concerns.

Everyone wants to be understood. By working together for mutually beneficial outcomes, you will create a harmonious and warm environment for everyone to benefit.

Article by Magna Goerke


Expect the best on Your Wedding Day!

Engagement Party

So you’re engaged. Where do you start? Where do you go? How do you plan what’s probably the biggest event of your life? It can be a little overwhelming especially if you have a limited budget.

The first thing future brides usually do is buy a wedding magazine. They are full of photos of designer dresses and massive weddings where budgets are in the range of hundreds of thousands of dollars. Since contentment lies in the gap between expectation and reality, this ideal can set you up for big disappointment when you look at your savings account. You want the extraordinary wedding in the magazines and on the TV, but you only have an ordinary budget.

You set a budget, but forget about it once you see the dress of your dreams and tally up the number of guests you want to invite. It’s easy to get swept away with the glamour of what’s available for weddings these days. But is it worth it? According to the “Bestman” from Wedding Bells Magazine, “memories last forever, and debt almost as long”. Think about what you want most for your life together. Do you want to start your marriage with a staggering debt that can turn into the number one reason for divorce?

This is your day. It’s about the commitment you are making with your chosen partner. The guests, the party, the gifts, the details, are all peripheral to this promise. The most memorable weddings are not always the most extravagant. It’s the little touches that guests remember such as the 1st dance, or a moving speech. What guests really want to see is a happy couple who look relaxed and madly in love – that doesn’t cost a penny, just preparation and contentment.

Expect the best for you as a couple and not some New York magazine’s version of the best. If you manage your expectations based on your resources, you will maximize your contentment and have the extraordinary wedding you expect.

Article by Magna Goerke


Four Big Decisions for your Wedding Day

As soon as you get engaged, there is a flurry of activity and decisions to be made. Then there is a lull, and another flurry of activity just before the wedding. After you share the good news, the first flurry starts with four big decisions that can affect each other significantly - Budget, Location, Date, and Guest List.

BUDGET - Your budget will affect everything. Don’t worry about an exact number to stick to as you will likely modify it a few times. You should, however; set some parameters right away to make sure the other decisions are realistic. Bear in mind that the most memorable weddings are not always the most extravagant. It’s often the little touches that guests remember such as the 1st dance, or a moving speech so try to be imaginative rather than just flashing your cash. What guests really want to see is a happy couple who look relaxed and madly in love. That doesn’t cost a penny but it does require preparation.

LOCATION - Ideally you should book your location a year in advance as the popular sites go fast. Unless you have a great private location with flexible dates, this can determine your date due to availability. As an example, your chances of getting a location for 07-07-07 are pretty much nil and none unless you booked it a long time ago.

DATE - Many choose a date on a long weekend so they and their guests can have an extra day. This isn’t as opportune an idea as it sounds at first. Costs can be greater on holiday weekends and cheap flights may be less available. You may gain some out of town guests and lose some local guests that made holiday plans before they knew about your wedding. So know your guest list and pick a date accordingly. If budget is an issue, you might want to consider a Friday which is often discounted instead of the popular Saturday for your wedding day celebration.

GUEST LIST - The guest list will affect many decisions. Where will your guests be coming from and what is the most central location for everyone? How large a venue will you need, and how much of a budget is required? Although it’s not very romantic, it’s important to realize that there is a cost attached to each invited guest. One of the most significant wedding mistakes is inviting too many people. If you keep the numbers low, you have a better chance of connecting with your guests in a meaningful way and perhaps be able to accommodate everyone at a more intimate and economical setting.

All these decisions can be challenging to make, especially when you have so many people to please. Set priorities early on so you know the parameters you have to make your important decisions within.


Article by Magna Goerke



Sunday, December 4, 2011

Top 40 Questions to Ask a Wedding DJ

These are the 40 most important questions to ask any professional disc jockey you are considering for your wedding, and will help you accurately gauge the professionalism, reliability, and honesty of any wedding DJ you are considering. Again, we strongly encourage you to read our free eBook for an in-depth guide to finding, interviewing, and hiring a wedding DJ. This list of questions will certainly help you once you reach the DJ interview process, but doing some research beforehand will help you determine whether certain wedding DJs are even worth interviewing. Good luck in your search!

1. Do you offer a written contract?
All of the wedding disc jockeys you interview may not have the same standards of professionalism. A written, legal contract is one of the first indicators of whether a DJ is professional and reliable. Furthermore, a contract establishes the DJ’s obligation to the client and outlines what is required for the DJ’s success, by outlining his setup requirements and other factors related to his performance. For this reason, a written contract is absolutely essential and any DJ not using a written contract should not, in our opinion, be considered for a wedding reception.
2. Will you be the DJ at our wedding?
Often, the person you speak with is not the person who will be your DJ on your wedding day. This is a very common practice among large agencies. It is absolutely paramount that you have an opportunity to interview, in person, the specific DJ that you will be working with and determine whether you feel comfortable with them. You should also expect that the individual DJ’s name is specified on your contract – it is the only way you can be guaranteed his or her services at your wedding.

3. May we meet with you in person before we sign a contract?
Many wedding DJs attempt to conduct their interviews over the telephone and through email instead of meeting face-to-face with prospective clients. In our experience, there are two reasons a disc jockey would do this – either they don’t feel you are worth their time, or they have something to hide. Some deejays are very different in person than on the telephone and what is presented on their website, and you should insist on meeting in face-to-face so you can judge for yourself whether they are a good match for you and your wedding.  Your “gut” feeling is very important in selecting the right disc jockey, and it’s practically impossible to make this evaluation unless you are together in person.

4. How long will you hold our date for us?
When you contact a professional disc jockey, they should be willing to hold your date for you for a reasonable amount of time in order to give you a chance to meet with them. They should also give you ample time after your meeting to make a decision and give you time to interview other DJs. Some DJs will use pressure sales tactics to “hard close” you at your meeting, offering a special sale that ends that day, or claiming that another couple is meeting with them for the same date – attempting to pressure you to make a decision on the spot. Any DJ that uses these types of tactics is unprofessional and is most likely doing so in order to keep you from meeting other DJs (whom they know you’ll like more than you like them). One week is a reasonable amount of time to expect your date to be held for you following an initial meeting. At MyDeejay, we give two weeks.

5. Do you work exclusively for this company?
Most large agencies use independent DJ subcontractors to perform their events. Often, these DJs work for several agencies and also accept bookings directly. A disc jockey, or the agency through whom he is booked, should be able to explain the DJ’s obligation to that agency and what will happen if he leaves that agency.  Often, there is nothing more than a verbal confirmation between the independent DJ and the agency for each booking — a frequent cause of problems.  If you choose a DJ who subcontracts for several agencies and books his own events, you need to be clear on what will happen if he is accidentally double-booked for your wedding date, or what would happen to your event if you contract the DJ through an agency and he decides to skip out on your event to book something else for a higher price.  To find out whether your DJ is available independently or through numerous agencies, try performing a web search for their name and the word “DJ”.

6. How long have you been a DJ and how many weddings have you done?
A wedding is such an important occasion, and you don’t want your DJ’s first wedding to be your own. The number of years someone has been a DJ will give you some indication of their experience level, but some DJs only perform for a few events (and fewer weddings) each year. A DJ with half as many years in the industry may have many times as many weddings under his belt, so you should also ask how many weddings the DJ has done.  Also be sure to ask if the DJ has any formal training, either from a DJ company or a DJ school.

7. How many weddings do you do each year?
Just like any other profession, performing for weddings requires one’s skills to be in top form. If a DJ performs for only a few weddings per year, they may not be “at the top of their game” by the time your wedding date arrives. Asking how many weddings they do per year will give you an indication of their level of commitment to your type of event.

8. How many other types of events do you do per year?
Different DJs focus on different types of events – some consider themselves a “jack of all trades” and claim expertise in all types of events, and others are specialists. The ratio between the number of weddings a DJ performs for and the amount of other, non-wedding events they do will tell you where their focus lies. If you are looking for a “low-key” wedding DJ and someone you meet with does mostly school dances or Bar Mitzvahs, they may not be very focused on the type of sophisticated presentation you want for your wedding.

9. Do you perform for more than one event in a day?
Some DJs will do as many events as they possibly can, and often try to pack their weekends with all types of DJ work. If a disc jockey has already done an event in the afternoon before your wedding, they will likely be physically exhausted by the latter half of your wedding, which is exactly when they need to be the most alert and active. This is most common at large agencies, where “weekend warriors” may perform at four to six events over a three-day period. It is hard to believe that any DJ could give that many couples an adequate amount of attention leading up to, and on, their wedding day.

10. What makes you different from your competitors?
Any professional wedding disc jockey will take pride in their work, and be able to answer this question honestly and communicate the things that make their services unique. Some DJs, however, will take this opportunity to “bash” their competition and say negative things about specific DJs or agencies. We consider this type of behavior unprofessional (in fact, doing this is strictly forbidden for members of the American Disc Jockey Association), and is a poor reflection on them. In fact, you may want to consider making it a point to meet any DJ that they say something bad about – DJs that engage in this type of thing will often target the DJs they’re afraid you’ll book instead of them, and they’re probably right!

11. Have you played at our reception site before?
Wedding experience is important, and so is familiarity with your reception site. Every site poses different challenges – different load-in and security procedures, different room sizes and configurations, different acoustics, even antiquated electrical outlets that need to be grounded manually. Hiring a DJ that is familiar with your site will give you peace of mind that you won’t have any surprises on your wedding day. Obviously, even the best DJs can’t have performed at every site in the area (since there are hundreds available in any area), but if he hasn’t been to yours, he should be willing to adequately prepare himself prior to your event by visiting the venue and/or speaking with the site contact and studying a floor plan.

12. Do you act as the “emcee” and make all of the announcements?
Any professional wedding disc jockey should be comfortable with making announcements and serving as the emcee for the wedding, it is a standard part of the job. Some DJs, however, are not comfortable with this and prefer to pass these duties on to someone else, such as a site manager, who may not have a professional voice or experience speaking on a microphone. 

13. How would you define your “style” when making announcements?
This is an extremely important question to ask because it will tell you whether or not the DJ is the right match for your guests and the atmosphere you’re trying to create. If you are planning an elegant, understated wedding, then utilizing the services of a “party motivator” or “entertainer DJ” may not be what you are looking for. If you know your guests will need a lot of encouragement to dance, then hiring someone who flatly refuses to make announcements probably isn’t the best idea either.

14. What do you do to motivate the crowd if nobody is dancing?
Different wedding disc jockeys handle this situation in very different ways – some opt to use the microphone to try to “energize” your guests and motivate them to dance. Others would never do something like this and prefer to use careful song selection to ensure dance floor success. You need to know what the DJ would do in this situation, and determine if that is the way you would like the situation handled.

15. What if something happens to you and you can’t make it to the wedding?
Despite meticulous planning and preparation, accidents do happen. If the DJ is injured or otherwise unable to perform on your wedding day, what is the backup plan? Most responsible professionals have some sort of backup strategy should this situation ever arise, but others do not. Often, DJs will be members of a local DJ association, and network with other DJs who could possibly provide backup services for them in the event of an emergency. Others take this planning more seriously and reserve a specific DJ for every date, ensuring that backup is both available and prepared in case of an emergency.  You need to feel comfortable that you will still have a qualified, prepared DJ on your wedding day, regardless of the circumstances, so the answer to this question is very important.

16. Will we meet again before the wedding?
Just as some deejays will prefer not to meet you when you book them, others will prefer to conduct a “final meeting” in the weeks before your wedding over the telephone instead of in person. While having a face-to-face meeting for the final meeting is arguably less important than meeting personally for an initial interview, the DJ should still be willing to meet you in person for a second time if that’s what you prefer.

17. Can we visit you at a performance?
Hopefully the answer to this question is “no.” We’re sure that you wouldn’t appreciate the DJ inviting prospective clients to your wedding to see him in action. A professional DJ should be willing to take a stand for his clients’ privacy and not offer this as a possibility. Professional wedding DJs never allow this.

18. May we speak to your references?
Speaking to a wedding DJ’s former clients is a great way to get a feel for what it is like to work with them, and any DJ should be ready and willing to allow you to speak with their references. He should also be willing to contact several of these references in advance of providing you with their information, so that they have his permission and so you feel comfortable calling them.

19. How do you keep your music collection up-to-date?
The majority of professional DJs subscribe to at least one of the major music update services in order to keep their collections up-to-date. These services provide the DJ with new, radio edited music, often before it is even playing on the radio. Ask the DJ if they subscribe to any of these. The most common are Promo Only, TM Century Prime Cuts, RPM Top Hits Monthly, and ERG NuTraxx.

20. How involved can we be in selecting music for our event?
This is an important question to ask, because some DJs prefer to control the majority of the playlist and supplement their choices with a small handful of your specific requests. Other disc jockeys prefer to let the client choose the majority of the music, and then use their expertise to make it all work. The DJ should be accommodating of your music tastes, and you should feel comfortable with the DJ’s approach and the amount of involvement you’ll be able to have in choosing the music.

21. When do we need to submit our music requests and event details?
Most professional DJs will give you a printed song list and planning worksheet with which to communicate the details of your event; others will give you access to an online planning system that will guide you throughout the entire process. You should be given ample time to make decisions regarding your music choices and event timeline, but the DJ should also require this information far enough in advance so that he can adequately prepare for your event. A DJ who doesn’t ask for your requests at least a couple of weeks before your wedding may not be able to fulfill them. In addition, the DJ should be willing to accommodate any later changes or additions whenever possible, rather than locking you into a first dance song that you later regret or refusing to alter the order of your toasts.

22. Do you take requests from our guests?
Most DJs are happy to do so, but you should also feel reasonably assured that any request they chose to play would not be something you didn’t like.

23. Can we submit a “Do Not Play” list?
Any professional DJ should be willing to honor your requests, including your request for certain songs and genres to not be used. Submitting a “Do Not Play” list will give a DJ a clear idea of your limits and your expectations for their song selection at your wedding.

24. When do you arrive to set up for our wedding?
When dealing with sub-standard DJs, there are often issues with them being punctual and set up well in advance of your guests’ arrival. Professional DJs will always arrive at least a full hour before their scheduled start time in order to have adequate time to set up and get organized before the wedding. MyDeejay’s policy is to arrive at least an hour and a half before our scheduled start time.

25. What will you wear to our wedding?
Most wedding DJs own, and are comfortable wearing, a tuxedo when they perform. If the groom will not be wearing a tuxedo, then it is inappropriate for the DJ to wear a tuxedo. You should also ask what type of tuxedo the DJ wears. Brands are unimportant (most tuxes look practically identical), but ask about the style of vest, cummerbund, and neckwear. Some DJs prefer a classic, understated look and others wear flashy, shimmering or patterned vests and matching bowties. It is important that the DJ’s “look” meets your expectations.

26. What will you wear when you set up and break down your equipment?
This is something that is often overlooked, but can make a big difference. If your guests arrive early for the reception or stay afterward, will they see the DJ in a sweaty undershirt and gym shorts? Professional disc jockeys maintain acceptable appearance standards regardless of the situation, including setting up and breaking down their equipment.

27. How much of a deposit is required to secure our date?
Almost every DJ will require some sort of deposit or retainer in order to secure your date. This is for their protection and yours. The industry standard for deposits is 50%. Some DJs require far less, but this is not always a good idea. If the contract language doesn’t stipulate a specific guarantee of services and clearly outline a cancellation policy, the DJ may only legally be responsible for returning your deposit (sometimes as little as $25) in order to back out of doing your wedding. While it would certainly be considered unprofessional, there certainly isn’t any financial incentive for the DJ if he’s only forced to pay a small fee for backing out on you.

28. What is included in the cost of my event?
DJs use vastly different systems when pricing their services. Most DJs price their services a la carte, charging an hourly rate and adding charges for any additional equipment needed. Others choose to use a flat-rate pricing system and make their packages all-inclusive. You need to be clear about what a DJ is offering for the price they’ve quoted you, so you can compare their package to those of the other DJs you are interviewing.

29. How much would you charge for overtime?
Hopefully your DJ will do such a wonderful job at your wedding that you’d like to keep dancing! Be sure that the DJ’s contract outlines a specific rate for additional time at the end of the night, whether it is a set price or a pro-rated amount based on the original price.

30. What do you require from us?
Every DJ will require a few things that you’ll need to provide them in order to be successful. The most common are adequate shelter, electricity, and a table for their equipment. Make sure that you understand exactly what the DJ needs from you so you can communicate those needs to your reception site and caterer.

31. Do you require a meal?
Some DJs require that they receive a meal at the wedding, and some even demand that they be fed the same food as your guests. Others do not require a meal at all, or simply accept one if you happen to offer. Again, be sure you know what the DJ’s requirements are so you can plan accordingly.

32. Are you insured?
It is absolutely essential that any DJ you consider carries a full liability insurance policy. They are fairly inexpensive (less than $250 per year in some cases), so being uninsured is inexcusable. Some reception sites have even taken the step of requiring all vendors working at their facility to provide proof of insurance before the wedding. Liability insurance protects you and the reception site in the unlikely event that your DJ injures one of your guests or burns your reception site to the ground.

33. Do you take any breaks?
One of the major advantages to using a DJ instead of a band is that a DJ does not need to take breaks, outside of using the restroom and possibly eating a meal quickly in another room (if this is what your site contact or caterer requires). In any case, the DJ should assure you that there will be no break in the music at any point during the reception.

34. What is your policy on alcohol or smoking during the wedding?
A professional DJ will never consume alcohol or take cigarette breaks during your wedding. If you interview a DJ and he tells you he needs a few drinks to “loosen up” while working, you should probably look for a DJ with higher standards of professionalism.

35. What kind of equipment do you use?
Any DJ you consider should be proud of his sound system, and should be using professional-grade equipment. Most DJs understand that you are very unlikely to have a working knowledge of  professional DJ equipment, but he should be able to describe his sound system to you. You should not hear very many “home audio” brands in what he describes – the top brands for DJ equipment are Pioneer, Denon, PCDJ, Traktor, Serato, Electro-Voice (EV), JBL, Bose, Mackie, RANE, QSC, and Shure.

36. Do you bring backup equipment with you to the wedding?
Even the very best and most well-maintained equipment will malfunction at some point. Your DJ needs to be prepared in case this happens at your wedding. The only way you will not suffer a setback on your special day is if the DJ brings a full second sound system with them to each and every wedding. Having backup equipment in a warehouse 50 miles from your reception site won’t do much good if there is no music at your wedding for an hour.

37. Do you have a wireless microphone?
Every professional wedding DJ should offer a wireless microphone to be used for your guests’ toasts, blessing, and any other speeches that need to be made. The industry standard for wireless microphones is Shure, and most professional DJs use Shure wireless technology.

38. Do you have a “light show”?
Some DJs also offer “party lights,” either as part of their package or as an additional service they can provide. You should find out whether the DJ plans on setting up lights for the dance floor, and whether this matches your preferences. Also, if you do desire a light show, you may want to ask how this will affect the aesthetics of your reception (in other words, how bulky/cumbersome the setup is) and the quality of your photographs or video. In our experience, most weddings do not need (and practically none of our clients even ask for) a light show.

39. Do you set up a sign or banner with your equipment?
Shameless self-promotion sometimes rears its ugly head at wedding receptions in the form of a sign or banner advertising the DJ’s company name and contact information. These items inevitably find their way into your wedding pictures and video, and ruin what is an otherwise commercial-free event. This practice is repulsive and completely unprofessional, and we believe that any DJ that does this should never be hired for a wedding.

40. Do you belong to any professional associations or trade groups?
If a DJ is serious about his craft and interested in becoming a better performer, they will often join a local DJ association or trade group. These are opportunities for DJs to interact with one another, share ideas, and network with other DJs who might be able to help them should they ever have an emergency. While membership in one of these organizations is not a guarantee of that DJ’s talent level, it does at least show a willingness to grow and improve and become a better DJ.


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Wednesday, November 30, 2011

12 month wedding planning calendar, Vancouver, Surrey, Coquitlam, Langley

Just engaged? Starting to envision your wedding? Wondering about all the things you'll need to do and when? Our month-by-month snapshot of all your wedding to-dos will steer you in the right direction.

12+ months before
• Envision your wedding and draw up a budget.
• Assemble your "planning team." Consider hiring a wedding consultant.
• Pick a wedding date and time. Select several options, then check with your venues, officiant, and important guests before finalizing.
• Start planning the guest list.
• Look for and book ceremony sites and reception sites.
• Ask friends and relatives to be in the wedding party.

Optional: Have an engagement party. You may want to register beforehand for gifts.

8-10 months before
• Bride: Think about, shop for, and order your gown.
• Envision reception food.
• Decide what type of entertainment you want. A pianist for the cocktail hour, strolling violinists, a DJ, or band?
• Think about your floral decor.
• Research and book your wedding professionals. Interview vendors: photographer, videographer, reception band or DJ, florist.
• Research a wedding insurance policy to protect your deposits.
• Research and reserve accommodations for out-of-town guests.
• Register for gifts.
• Contact rental companies if you need to rent anything for ceremony/reception, such as chairs, tables, and tent.

6-8 months before
• Book ceremony musicians.
• Order bridesmaid dresses.
• Start planning honeymoon.
• Send save-the-date cards. This is a particularly good idea if you're marrying during a tourist or holiday season or having a destination wedding.

4-6 months before
• Attend prewedding counseling, if required.
• Shop for and order invitations and wedding rings.
• Shop for formalwear.
• Renew or get passports, if necessary.
• Envision your wedding cake and research, interview, and book a cake designer.

3 months before
• Order wedding cake.
• Hire a calligrapher, if you want your invitations professionally addressed.
• Attend your shower. (It may be earlier, depending on when hosts decide to have it.)
• Groom: Rent the men's formalwear.
• Hire wedding-day transport: limousines, other cars. Look into transportation sooner if you're considering renting streetcars or over-the-top travel.

2 months before
• Mail your invitations.
• Write your vows.
• Purchase gifts for parents, attendants, and each other.
• Book your stylist and try out big-day hairstyles.
• Book a makeup artist and go for a trial run.

1 month before
• Apply for a marriage license. Check with the local bureau in the town where you'll wed.
• Bride: Have final gown fitting. Bring your maid of honor along to learn how to bustle your dress. Have the dress pressed and bring it home.
• Call all bridesmaids. Make sure they have their gowns ready for the wedding.
• Make last-minute adjustments with vendors.
• Create a wedding program to hand out to guests.
• Order and plan in-room welcome baskets for out-of-town guests.

2 weeks before
• Review final RSVP list and call any guests who have not yet sent a response.
• Deliver must-have shot lists to photographer and videographer. Include who should be in formal portraits and determine when portraits will be taken.
• Deliver final song list to your DJ or bandleader. Include special song requests and songs you don't want played.
• Bride: Get your last prewedding haircut and color.

1 week before
• Give reception site/caterer final guest head count. Include vendors, such as the photographer or band members, who will expect a meal. Ask how many extra plates the caterer will prepare.
• Supply location manager with a list of vendor requests such as a table for DJ or setup space needed by florist.
• Plan reception seating chart.
• Print place and table cards, or finalize list with the calligrapher you have hired to do so.
• Call all wedding vendors and confirm arrangements.
• Give ceremony and reception site managers a schedule of vendor delivery and setup times, plus contact numbers.
• Groom: Get your hair trimmed.
• Attend bachelor/ette parties.

2-3 days before
• Bride: If you need to, have your gown pressed or steamed.
• Groom: Go for final fitting and pick up your formalwear.
• Groom: Ask the best man to make sure all groomsmen attend fittings and pick up their outfits.
• Determine wedding-party positions during ceremony and the order of the party in the processional and recessional.
• Hand off place cards, table cards, menus, disposable cameras, favors, and any other items for setting the tables to the caterer and/or reception site manager.
• Reconfirm final details with all vendors. Discuss any necessary last-minute substitutions.
• Call the limousine- or car-rental company for pickup times and locations.
• Arrange for guests without cars to be picked up from the airport or train station. Ask friends, attendants, or relatives to help.
• Deliver welcome baskets to the hotel concierge; make sure to include names and delivery instructions.

Day before
• Provide all wedding professionals with an emergency phone number to call on the day of the wedding.
• Write checks and/or talk to wedding hosts (usually your parents, if not you) about any final balances to be paid at the end of the reception.

Night before
• Rehearse ceremony. Meet with wedding party, ceremony readers, immediate family, and your officiant at the ceremony site to rehearse and iron out details.
• Bring unity candle, aisle runner, yarmulkes, or other ceremony accessories to the site.
• Give your marriage license to your officiant.
• Attend rehearsal dinner.
• Present attendants with gifts at the rehearsal dinner. You'll want to do this especially if the gifts are accessories to be worn during the wedding.

Day of
• Present parents and each other with gifts.
• Give wedding bands to the best man and the maid of honor to hold during the ceremony.
• Give best man the officiant's fee envelope, to be handed off after the ceremony.
• Introduce your reception site manager to your consultant or maid of honor for questions or problems during the reception.
• Assign a family member or attendant to be the photographer's contact so he knows who is who.

Postwedding
• Prearrange for someone to return any rentals.
• Preplan for attendants to take the bride's gown for cleaning and return the groom's tux to the rental shop.
• Write and send thank-you notes to gift-bearing guests and vendors who were especially helpful.

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