12+ months before
• Envision your wedding and draw up a budget.
• Assemble your "planning team." Consider hiring a wedding consultant.
• Pick a wedding date and time. Select several options, then check with your venues, officiant, and important guests before finalizing.
• Start planning the guest list.
• Look for and book ceremony sites and reception sites.
• Ask friends and relatives to be in the wedding party.
Optional: Have an engagement party. You may want to register beforehand for gifts.
8-10 months before
• Bride: Think about, shop for, and order your gown.
• Envision reception food.
• Decide what type of entertainment you want. A pianist for the cocktail hour, strolling violinists, a DJ, or band?
• Think about your floral decor.
• Research and book your wedding professionals. Interview vendors: photographer, videographer, reception band or DJ, florist.
• Research a wedding insurance policy to protect your deposits.
• Research and reserve accommodations for out-of-town guests.
• Register for gifts.
• Contact rental companies if you need to rent anything for ceremony/reception, such as chairs, tables, and tent.
6-8 months before
• Book ceremony musicians.
• Order bridesmaid dresses.
• Start planning honeymoon.
• Send save-the-date cards. This is a particularly good idea if you're marrying during a tourist or holiday season or having a destination wedding.
4-6 months before
• Attend prewedding counseling, if required.
• Shop for and order invitations and wedding rings.
• Shop for formalwear.
• Renew or get passports, if necessary.
• Envision your wedding cake and research, interview, and book a cake designer.
3 months before
• Order wedding cake.
• Hire a calligrapher, if you want your invitations professionally addressed.
• Attend your shower. (It may be earlier, depending on when hosts decide to have it.)
• Groom: Rent the men's formalwear.
• Hire wedding-day transport: limousines, other cars. Look into transportation sooner if you're considering renting streetcars or over-the-top travel.
2 months before
• Mail your invitations.
• Write your vows.
• Purchase gifts for parents, attendants, and each other.
• Book your stylist and try out big-day hairstyles.
• Book a makeup artist and go for a trial run.
1 month before
• Apply for a marriage license. Check with the local bureau in the town where you'll wed.
• Bride: Have final gown fitting. Bring your maid of honor along to learn how to bustle your dress. Have the dress pressed and bring it home.
• Call all bridesmaids. Make sure they have their gowns ready for the wedding.
• Make last-minute adjustments with vendors.
• Create a wedding program to hand out to guests.
• Order and plan in-room welcome baskets for out-of-town guests.
2 weeks before
• Review final RSVP list and call any guests who have not yet sent a response.
• Deliver must-have shot lists to photographer and videographer. Include who should be in formal portraits and determine when portraits will be taken.
• Deliver final song list to your DJ or bandleader. Include special song requests and songs you don't want played.
• Bride: Get your last prewedding haircut and color.
1 week before
• Give reception site/caterer final guest head count. Include vendors, such as the photographer or band members, who will expect a meal. Ask how many extra plates the caterer will prepare.
• Supply location manager with a list of vendor requests such as a table for DJ or setup space needed by florist.
• Plan reception seating chart.
• Print place and table cards, or finalize list with the calligrapher you have hired to do so.
• Call all wedding vendors and confirm arrangements.
• Give ceremony and reception site managers a schedule of vendor delivery and setup times, plus contact numbers.
• Groom: Get your hair trimmed.
• Attend bachelor/ette parties.
2-3 days before
• Bride: If you need to, have your gown pressed or steamed.
• Groom: Go for final fitting and pick up your formalwear.
• Groom: Ask the best man to make sure all groomsmen attend fittings and pick up their outfits.
• Determine wedding-party positions during ceremony and the order of the party in the processional and recessional.
• Hand off place cards, table cards, menus, disposable cameras, favors, and any other items for setting the tables to the caterer and/or reception site manager.
• Reconfirm final details with all vendors. Discuss any necessary last-minute substitutions.
• Call the limousine- or car-rental company for pickup times and locations.
• Arrange for guests without cars to be picked up from the airport or train station. Ask friends, attendants, or relatives to help.
• Deliver welcome baskets to the hotel concierge; make sure to include names and delivery instructions.
Day before
• Provide all wedding professionals with an emergency phone number to call on the day of the wedding.
• Write checks and/or talk to wedding hosts (usually your parents, if not you) about any final balances to be paid at the end of the reception.
Night before
• Rehearse ceremony. Meet with wedding party, ceremony readers, immediate family, and your officiant at the ceremony site to rehearse and iron out details.
• Bring unity candle, aisle runner, yarmulkes, or other ceremony accessories to the site.
• Give your marriage license to your officiant.
• Attend rehearsal dinner.
• Present attendants with gifts at the rehearsal dinner. You'll want to do this especially if the gifts are accessories to be worn during the wedding.
Day of
• Present parents and each other with gifts.
• Give wedding bands to the best man and the maid of honor to hold during the ceremony.
• Give best man the officiant's fee envelope, to be handed off after the ceremony.
• Introduce your reception site manager to your consultant or maid of honor for questions or problems during the reception.
• Assign a family member or attendant to be the photographer's contact so he knows who is who.
Postwedding
• Prearrange for someone to return any rentals.
• Preplan for attendants to take the bride's gown for cleaning and return the groom's tux to the rental shop.
• Write and send thank-you notes to gift-bearing guests and vendors who were especially helpful.
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